Written by TPG Executive Producer/Ambassador - TLThomas
Reconciliation: Unity and Alignment
The Ten Days of Repentance
My daddy was an accountant. I learned about reconciliation at “my daddy’s knee.” Well, sitting beside him at the kitchen table, anyway.
What Is Reconciliation in Accounting?
A reconciliation involves matching two sets of records to see if there are any differences. Reconciliations are a useful step in ensuring that accounting records are accurate.
We went over writing checks, making debit entries, reviewing the bank statement, and reconciling my records—the check ledger—with the bank’s records—the bank’s ledger—the summer before college and whenever I went home for a visit.
Reconciliation meant making sure the two lists—mine and the bank’s—of actions and their corresponding dollar amounts were aligned with each other and unified to the same amount.
Sometimes reconciliation was easy; the check numbers and amounts agreed.
Sometimes reconciliation was hard:
I had written a check that I didn’t enter into my check ledger. Oops!
I had made a subtraction error. Few people had a pocket calculator, and nobody had a calculator app on a phone in their pocket!
Sometimes, the bank made an error!
Yes, don’t believe your bank is always correct. Reconcile your bank statement with your receipts—you know, those long strips of paper you usually toss or say “NO” to when asked if you want one? Yeah, those.
What Is Reconciliation in the Bible?
The entire Bible can be seen as YHVH seeking reconciliation with the ones He “created in His own image.”
Reconciliation in the Bible means the complete restoration of a broken relationship between God and humanity through the sacrificial work of Yeshua Messiah.
It’s not just forgiveness—it’s the total removal of hostility, the bridging of an infinite gap, and the transformation of enemies into beloved children.
In addition, reconciliation is the restoration of a relationship to a harmonious state after a dispute; it is the bringing of accord out of discord between two parties.
Christian reconciliation is the work of God through Messiah by which He restores mankind to a favorable relationship with Himself.
As we’ve seen, repentance is a process—a process that takes time.
It is also a process that requires change:
As a start, making an effort: Remembrance
Then, taking the time to consider: Reflection
At the least, a change of feeling: Regret
In general, a change of heart and action: Repentance
In specific, a remediation of the insult or injury: Restitution
At most, a transformation into Christlikeness: ReTurn to the Father
Reconciliation Between People
Reconciliation differs from simple forgiveness because it requires both parties to come together. A judge can forgive a debt, but reconciliation happens when the debtor and creditor sit at the same table as friends.
Nevertheless, as I said in Forgiveness: A Peek at My Prayer Journal:
REMEMBER:
Forgiveness DOES NOT mean “they were right and I was wrong.”
Forgiveness DOES NOT mean it was “okay for them to do that to me.”
Forgiveness DOES NOT mean “our relationship must be or is restored.”
The same principles apply when considering reconciliation:
Reconciliation is NOT acting as if nothing happened.
Reconciliation is NOT an automatic reinstatement of all rights and privileges.
Reconciliation does NOT demand that one party continue in harmful conditions.
A broken relationship does NOT have to be restored—EVER!
That does not mean we should harden our hearts, hold on to bitterness, or refuse to forgive. It means that forgiveness does not always require renewed access or a restored relationship. In some circumstances, maintaining firm boundaries or complete separation may be both wise and necessary.
As Lenny Williams explains:
Does this mean reconciliation always results in a restored relationship?
Not always—reconciliation requires two willing parties, and you can’t force someone to receive your extended hand.
But you can always control your side of the equation.
You can forgive, release bitterness, and keep the door open, trusting God with the outcome.
Forgiveness can take place within your own heart, even when reconciliation is not possible, wise, or safe.
More of the Story: The Prodigal Son
20 So he got up and came to his father. But while he was still a long way off, his father saw him and felt compassion for him, and ran and embraced him and kissed him.
21 And the son said to him, “Father, I have sinned against heaven and in your sight; I am no longer worthy to be called your son.”
22 But the father said to his slaves, “Quickly bring out the best robe and put it on him, and put a ring on his hand and sandals on his feet;
23 and bring the fattened calf, kill it, and let us eat and celebrate;
24 for this son of mine was dead and has come to life again; he was lost and has been found.” And they began to celebrate.
—Luke 15:11–32 NASB
Was the father interested in reconciliation with his younger son?
YES!
The father had been on the lookout for his son. Probably daily. Probably for months!
But when he recognized his son in the far distance, this dignified and wealthy man pulled up the skirts of his robes—and ran toward his lost son.
The father embraced his son. He kissed his son. He ignored his son’s confession. He was too busy telling his servants to prepare a celebration.
So, yes, relationships CAN be restored:
IF BOTH parties are willing.
IF NO ONE is coerced or forced.
IF, perhaps, trust is allowed time to grow.
The greater the offense and the greater the hurt, the more time, effort, and love of the other more than self are required.
Reconciled: The Bill That Was Due Has Been Paid
Interestingly, these two definitions of reconciliation do come together in the Bible regarding the death and resurrection of Yeshua:
13 And when you were dead in your wrongdoings and the uncircumcision of your flesh, He [Christ] made you alive together with Him, having forgiven us all our wrongdoings,
14 having canceled the certificate of debt consisting of decrees against us, which was hostile to us; and He has taken it out of the way, having nailed it to the cross.
—Colossians 2:13–14 NASB
The certificate of debt was canceled because a PRICE WAS PAID.
19 Or do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit within you, whom you have from God, and that you are not your own?
20 For you have been bought for a price: therefore glorify God in your body.
—1 Corinthians 6:19–20 NASB
Yom Kippur: The Day of Atonement
The last of the Ten Days…
For the Jewish people, this is the highest of the High Holy Days.
More on that…next time.
Blessings,
TLThomas